Google “Ted Talks Esther Perel The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship”

AHA 4

Google “Ted Talks Esther Perel The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship”

This talk is germane to many of the concepts we have discussed in class.  As you listen to the talk, jot down the points she makes and anything you find interesting. Staple this page to the back of the paper you turn in for credit so that I can see your thought process as you watch the talk. (5 points)

Use this information to write a 1-2 page outline (different than reaction). The page should be 12 pt font, with 1 inch margins with your name and title only on the first line. (4 points)

1. Your opening paragraph needs to include who she is and how her credentials give her the expert power to make this talk meaningful. To find this information go to the end of the page and click on her bio. (1 point)
2. Make sure you discuss the relevant points that she list concerning the two conflicting needs. Including but not limited to: (10 points)

What she defines as a passionate marriage.

What the two needs are and how they clash.

Across culture what three times do people most desire their mates?

What do erotic couples do? How do they manage to be passionate?

3. In the last paragraph Relate the information in this talk to one important concept we have discussed in class. I can think of several….Maslow’s hierarchy of needs (deficiency vs. being needs) insecure attachment, “we-ness” or “the dance”. These are just a few, if you think of others use it. You don’t have to go into depth, just tell me how you think it related. (5 points)