How To Resolve A Disagreement Peacefully

Introduction

Disagreement between individuals is something that takes place naturally while resolving is not. The main thing in a disagreement is that no one wants to be in the losing end; hence the parties are involved in a tussle that spills over to dysfunction. This dysfunction may be in the form of shouting, hitting the other person among others. In the end, both or one side is left hurt either physically or emotionally.

To resolve these issues and dysfunction, there are a number of methods that bound to help if properly followed. The disagreeing parties have to first be in consensus that they have to alter how they solve issues (Hendrick and Garssen, 2012). This is vital as if they do not, there is bound to be some resistance going on with the resolution. Additionally, the conflicting parties have to accept to forgive the other person.

In case of an argument, the two parties have let the other person speak, though it is hard. They have to be let to bring out what they have before countering what they say. It is after this that either party can pose the question: “How can we solve this problem?” this helps to do away with negative issue, calm discussions.

Agree to Disagree

Most of the time, most people are focused on winning arguments. People are often focused on winning an argument. The main problem with winning is that the one on the losing end is looked down upon. When the parties acquire the method of “agreeing to disagreeing”, the parties are of the feeling that no one has lost. Similarly, flipping a coin is used when negotiations do not seem to work. Both parties are persistent of a solution. This is an appropriate method if the parties agree to it and should stick to it.

Negotiating Conflict

When the parties concerned are engaged in a discussion, they both have a point to which they look at the situation. Alternatively, negotiation about a disagreement is good way to settle an argument. This can be done using a 10 scale. One is able to allocate a value with regard to how one is of the belief his side has. Valuation has to be genuine (Hendrick and Garssen, 2012). Value of 10 offers no chance for negotiation while a 1 may swing either way. A legitimate number has to be acquired so as to have a position. If a person has 7 and the other one has 4, the 4 has to give in to the 7 for peace to prevail.

Splitting the Difference

Another method of sorting out an argument is to compromise middle way. The two parties get the feeling that they have not lost anything and are contented.

It is advisable that the parties have a fair and peaceful discussion. Neither of the parties should hit the other party, abusive terms should be avoided at all costs, bullying the other person so as to win an argument should be avoided, interrupting or shouting a person is solved by listening and giving the other person a chance to be heard.

Saving Face

The parties have to acquire the ideology of ‘saving face’ (Hendrick and Garssen, 2012). This is an aspect of according respect to the other person. The rule of saving face is based on the belief that no party will look into the thought of embarrassing the other party. Lastly if one is not able to resolve an argument, external help can be sort.

Conclusion

Disagreements are a common aspect in relationships, work places and between countries. What contrasts these parties is the way they handle their conflict. Most countries result to fighting or abusive terms that end up with both parties getting humiliated or injured. The use of resolution methods as discussed looks to have an equilibrium point that the argument stops or either party gives in for the sake of the whole relation to thrive.

Reference

Hendrick, F. and Garssen, B. (2012). Topical Themes in Argumentation Theory: Twenty     Exploratory Studies. New York: Springer.