All my life I have had the desire to help young man I grew up in a family where everyman have been to jail and I had many friends going to jail as well. I was the only one who hadnt experienced and  the only one to become successful. I knew there had to be a way to help these men see life in a different way. this situation is important to me because this was all I knew growing up and if I could overcome the negativity I knew my positive would shine so that they could see there was another way and doing things another way of life. I behaved two different ways to the situation. the first way in which I behave was trying to fit in and be like which I grew up and was hanging with. since this was all I knew I wanted to fit it and to be liked, but after a while I started to realize that this isnt what life was about. my other behavioral response to the situation was knowing that life had more to offer than what I was getting. things didn’t seem to be right when I was trying to do it that way when I realize that I could work a job and get an education to make a decent salary and prepare myself for a higher success, that’s when things started to change within myself and people surrounding me. during the situation I was so confused on what was going on. A question that I asked myself over and over was why am I allowing myself to become a product of my environment. I had to think over and over on why it took much time for me to receive this answer during my thinking process I evaluated my pros and cons of the situation and realize my pros of being successful and A man out weighed  my cons of taking chances of becoming some trouble adult t bound for Jail.  Another formulated  question was:  how did I get myself in the situation? the answer was confirmed immediately, peer pressure was a big reason to how I got myself in this as stated before I long to fit in or be accepted by people who I didn’t realize at the time meant me no good. of the nine strategies remaining the sixth strategy reshapping your character  helped me in my decision-making because I realize what the problem was and what it was doing to me and my surroundings. it took maturity and hard experiences . another strategy is handling a problem a day at a time. this help me in the situation I was in because of the answers I was trying to figure it all out at once time which made it harder but once I applied the  strategy , handling a problem one day at a time it made it easier and less stressful. Another situation that was emotionally significant to me was the death of my mother the death of my mother was important to me because she is my mother, my best friend it surprise me because it was a sudden-death it really came from nowhere she had been sick the month before but her pass it really threw me a curve ball. my behavior with her passing was very common like I said before she was my best friend she was all I had because my dad left when I was eight years old. so I watch my mom work hard r all of her life to provide for me and my siblings. so her passing I really didn’t understand why such a hard-working woman could just leave the world in such a short time. so at first my response was very negative I lashed out to everyone I push the closest to me away I blamed everyone and everything for her death. after I went through that phase I enter my next behavior which was accepting the fact that my mother had passed it took everything in me to accept  this I started to grieve  propperly  in by this started reading my Bible and having a relationship with God and with each day becomes easier. two questions that I had to his situation where:  why my mother and not someone else’s and when and how I could get through this my question as to why my mother was inevitable because no one can answer the question why in death. death is a part of life and there’s no technical reason  it is supposed to happen as to when and how I couldn’t understand I had to realize that I missed her and as bad as I wanted her too, she wasn’t coming back. that is something that’s going to happen we don’t have to acept it  but must know that life still goes on. two other strategies that help me in dishes and making of this situation would be getting touch with my emtions and redefining the way I saw things. by getting in touch with my emtions I was able  to learn how to deal with my situation this also allowed me  to know what help me to get through this and what triggers my emtions to overflow. redefining the way I see things help me in the situation because I looked at her death as something good and not bad. In doing this I learned she’s  in a better place in heaven than she is on earth. Paul and  Elder stated “we practiced redefining the way we see things, turn a negative into positive,  mistakes into opportunities, and it is dead ends to new beginnings”.  finally another emotional significance situation is my marriage being at the edge of a divorce is important to me because she’s my wife for six years and the mother of my children. we are family she’s my support system, my backbone, my everything. losing her I would lose many things in life including a being a full time father to our children. if this were to happen all my hard work and other investments would be useless. I behaved unlike the normal at first I had a nonchalant attitude like I didn’t care or I could do better. I fought her back-and-forth about this until I seen a get to the point where we were divided in everything . we  were to a point where we couldn’t even be around each other. my other behavior once we were at this point was very different. I started to change my response to the way I acted and responded to her. questions that I asked were why did I let it get to this point, and  how to change it around. I was young I did a lot I wasn’t supposed to do and never really cared about her feelings. I let my pride get the best of me I figured I could change it around by changing  my behavior which is how I treated her and how to become a better man.  this all came down to the way I was thinking.  of the four strategies – dealing with my ego would help me in decision-making because letting my ego or pride go  would get me further in my marriage. keeping this ego allowed strife to continue. another strategy to help me in the situation is using wasted time. even though there was wasted time didn’t mean that I was out of time to turn it around.  I could use that wasted time and learn from this wasted time whiched show me how to plan differently.